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It is never personal, you're not the protagonist

It's so easy to become offended. It actually comes pretty natural. Someone says something.  You feel it's directed at you Strong reaction follows No need to react, it's got nothing to do with you as a person Imagine some remarks about academic work versus manual one, a bit dismissive about the latter. You don't have a degree and never wanted one. You know very well it takes years of experience and training to do what you're doing. Talent is involved too, as some people do have "two left hands".  You still feel you should add something to the conversation, but not sure if it is going to be well-received. No need to enlighten the other party right now Most people think in terms of opposites. If it's not this, it's that and it can't be anything else. Certainty of one's convictions is also a form of self-reassurance that everything is stable in one's world. Other points of view cannot be allowed because they are disruptive. Cognitive disrup
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Dating in Covid Times


I have read Gabriel Garcia Marquez, including the novel "Love in the Time of Cholera".  I confess that I paraphrased his title for this blog post.

How are people dating these days, with so many restrictions and mandatory masks in public places?

Well, pragmatists are going to say there's always online dating.

It's grown a lot since it has become available to anyone with a computer, big or small (read mobile)

Traditional social encounters, by accident or dictated by personal circumstances, are now mirrored by digital options.

Online dating sites even cater for different age groups, with seniors a notable contingent.

These sites also provide a vital clue in the selection process: photos without a mask.

I know,  photos can be photoshopped and lying about age always a possibility. I expect though there's never a second date if the lie is too gross. Full-face images are still useful.

If the pandemics doesn't go away sooner and masks do become a fixture for much longer, online dating may well turn into a fashionable venue. 

A digital promenade.

The place to be seen without a mask on, with nose, mouth, dimples and wrinkles exposed. Who's going to lose out and who's winning, I wonder.



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  1. Unknown25 October 2020 at 18:41

    We know who is winning! Dating is only the first step. We need more apps for the rest of the technological process! We are all in Mr Gates' lap. Lapping at his gates, expectantly. That's why we call it ... laptop! Ha, ha :) :)

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