It's so easy to become offended. It actually comes pretty natural. Someone says something. You feel it's directed at you Strong reaction follows No need to react, it's got nothing to do with you as a person Imagine some remarks about academic work versus manual one, a bit dismissive about the latter. You don't have a degree and never wanted one. You know very well it takes years of experience and training to do what you're doing. Talent is involved too, as some people do have "two left hands". You still feel you should add something to the conversation, but not sure if it is going to be well-received. No need to enlighten the other party right now Most people think in terms of opposites. If it's not this, it's that and it can't be anything else. Certainty of one's convictions is also a form of self-reassurance that everything is stable in one's world. Other points of view cannot be allowed because they are disruptive. Cognitive disrup...
It's so easy to become offended. It actually comes pretty natural.
- Someone says something.
- You feel it's directed at you
- Strong reaction follows
No need to react, it's got nothing to do with you as a person
Imagine some remarks about academic work versus manual one, a bit dismissive about the latter.
You don't have a degree and never wanted one. You know very well it takes years of experience and training to do what you're doing. Talent is involved too, as some people do have "two left hands".
You still feel you should add something to the conversation, but not sure if it is going to be well-received.
No need to enlighten the other party right now
Most people think in terms of opposites. If it's not this, it's that and it can't be anything else.
Certainty of one's convictions is also a form of self-reassurance that everything is stable in one's world. Other points of view cannot be allowed because they are disruptive. Cognitive disruption can be is as painful as a wound to the flesh.
Change is always coming, it just takes a bit of time
If you're patient enough, you'll notice how most beliefs evolve and turn into something else if there is a change in circumstances.
You were never the main character in that story. Let the play run its course.
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